Dating tips for bad boys
I'm relieved that our daughter finds their Facebook pages boring. So I'd be just as concerned about Facebook drama among the girls as I would about dating, especially when it isn't necessarily dating.
But parents of middle school daughters often worry more about boys and ignore the toxic drama that the other girls are capable of drumming up.
G., I recently read your article warning parents about the perils of young teens and dating. When I was pregnant I prayed to have a popular child who would be happy and be sought out by the opposite sex. Can you explain some more what you have against young teens dating?
She is very pretty and popular and all of the boys like her. I was a wallflower with acne and sat home while the other kids went out.
Look, it is even complicated for mature adults, right?
The young teen may be ill-equipped to deal with these sorts of intimate relationships and may come to rely on their relationship status as an indicator of their self-esteem.
If we were still hunter-gatherers, these young people would, again, not be regarded as kids.
As for dating in middle school, it can range to many things.
We started out as friends, but I took the next move and asked him out. I think we are very serious even though I am in sixth grade (first year of middle school).
A Confused Mother Dear Mother, First, let me say that we have to be very careful about wishing for popularity for our kids.
The popular kids are not always the happiest kids nor are they always the nicest. Anyone who has ever been excluded knows that this has often been initiated by the popular kids. Nonetheless, kids who begin to date as young teens are more likely to have bad study habits, eventually develop substance use problems and are unfortunately more likely to drop out of school than teens who begin to date at later ages.
Also, when they say a couple is dating, they usually don't mean having sex.
So it's important to understand what dating means within a given context.